An article By a Dear Student - Dr Heena

THE TOM AND JERRY LESSON By Dr Heena

The other day, a facebook status update of a friend of mine caught my eye. it said: “ some relationships are like TOM AND JERRY, they tease each other, knock down each other, irritate each other, hate each other BUT cant live without each other!”

I believe such a love-hate relationship exists in each person’s life. We all are bound to have that one friend who we love to bitch about to our girlfriends, that one friend whose antics we keep quietly sniggering about , that one friend who we wonder about sometimes, often thinking “why am I friends wit her actually!!”

Human emotions are very complex. Many psychologists have tried to analyse man and his emotions and still remain confused. Each one has his own theory about why we often stay in certain relationships and why we opt out of others. I have my own theory, even though I’m not one of those doctors who nod at u wisely, ask you a hundred questions about your childhood and then give u an explanation which is a lot of psycho babble that probably even the doctor has not fully understood! But its told wit so much conviction that questioning or asking for a layman explanation would only present you as a brainless twit!

Well my simple theory is that no relationship can exist without love. And love is powerful, its the most underestimated human emotion. It can win over hatred, make you forget all those irritating habits, those pressing issues, those times she ditched you or those times she put you down. And love is in the small things. That’s why even though that friend is irritating 80% of the time the rest 10% she probably stood up for you when you were bullied by your seniors, came with you to the doctor when you had that so called private problem or picked you up to the gym everyday in her expensive car (albeit bragging about its cost all the way!), in the end that 10% makes all the difference in your decisions of who u choose to be in your life. Love truly does conquer all and no matter what face you’re making thinking of that friend you know that if something happened to her, your life would never be the same and you’re sure it would be the same for her. Even in the cartoon TOM has no purpose in life if JERRY is not there and vice versa.

So to summon it up, listen to her boring stories about her foreign trips, her monthly shopping bills or her uncanny hysterical laughter over a silly joke, cause in the end its not a love-hate relationship it’s a total love – love relationship.