OH!...TO BE CRUSHED!:)

These days its not the ‘L’ word making the rounds. Oh no, people are more careful in using the ‘L’ word. The popular word these days starts with ‘C’..and its called the “CRUSH”!

Crush is synonymous to infatuation, the other long word usually used by adults to make the crush word sound more mature. Dictionary defines infatuation/crush as: ‘a foolish, unreasoning or extravagant passion or attraction, usually short lived. Going by this definition you would feel that probably you’re the only “foolish” person to make this “mistake”. But truth be told each and every person has had or are having their share of crushes and enjoy the mistake while it lasts!

The crush is not only short lived it also happens fast. A pretty face , a smile, a kind gesture , or sometimes even a stupid antic by that person can instantly give u an anxiety attack! Your heart beats faster, your palms feel sweaty, your pupils dilate and are alert to wherever he moves and you feel your stomach squeeze. But instead of preparing for the flight and fight reaction you’re rooted to the spot just smiling goofily at him whether he sees you or not. You become unaware that people are looking at you like you're a specimen. And if by any chance your goofy smile is returned by your object of interest your mind starts daydreaming instantly. You transfer from your office, school or home to the Alps in Switzerland dancing to the latest romantic song. And while you’re daydreaming in the real world you bump into people but smile, people make mistakes that should get you angry but you smile, your work doesn’t go the way it should but you still smile and if someone screams at you, you just aggravate their anger more by keeping that smile plastered to your face! Oh, how irritating you becomes for others!

Soon he becomes your life’s goal. You’re googling his name, checking his facebook accounts, trying out if u match on the love calculators and yes of course plucking the petals of those poor flowers to know if he loves you. U dress up prettily, go for that waxing or eyebrow shaping you’ve been avoiding all these days, and your world is all happy and gay. Wow what a lovely feeling it is to be crushed! And yes, I have to mention that it doesn’t matter if you’re single, engaged or married. The crush when meant to happen, happens no doubt.

Of course the crush doesn’t stay forever. Again it can be anything which makes you lose interest. Your life goes back to the “nothing much, life’s boring” phase, u wear your aunty type dresses again and become a yeti listening to sad songs. Pretty soon u look at your crush with new eyes, all his flaws glaring back at you and you typically laugh to yourself and think: “how could I be so foolish enough to make a mistake of liking him!”

But the point is you were happy. And mistakes never make a person happy. They make a person guilty. And being happy isn’t being foolish. There are people climbing mountains in search of happiness. Happiness is supposed to be the worlds best kept secret. And happiness is in now. Even if it is a crush which brings it on!

So next time u get crushed, think of it as the best blessing bestowed on you and live it 100 percent. Think of it as a golden opportunity not a foolish mistake. Ignore the world go moony eyed. Get goofy, stay happy!:)



By: Heena Mohiddin.